Shake Yourself Free – Out Now!

It such a surreal feeling to be able to say that my book has been released. 🎉 I spent the past 5 years letting loose the many trials, missteps, and lessons learned as I’ve pushed through my journey. My hope is that it can help many navigate through their own journey. It’s available in both … Continue reading Shake Yourself Free – Out Now!

My Book’s Cover – Designed by Our Son

Excited to share that Shake Yourself Free was sent to the printer earlier in the week. It's so hard to believe that we're finally here! I've opened up my heart and soul and let it all out. There's parts of my story that I had never yet shared before with anybody. I am cautiously hopeful … Continue reading My Book’s Cover – Designed by Our Son

Shake Yourself Free — Coming Soon!

I've been working with my publisher, Aaron, for FIVE years now on my first book. What a process it has been! Aaron has patiently guided and developed me throughout this detailed process. When I began, I was a novice writer with a lifetime full of impactful stories from adversity and loss. Now I am an … Continue reading Shake Yourself Free — Coming Soon!

JUNE 13th

I sat down early this peaceful morning like I do most mornings, with the intention of spending time on the book that I am focusing on finishing. But my thoughts keep shifting to the specifics of it being June 13th, so I decided to write a short blog entry instead. I marvel at time. How … Continue reading JUNE 13th

Have A Blessed Day

SISTERSDina, left, with Shelly (2002) As well acquainted as I am with grief, I’ve been blessed not to lose anyone close to me too soon since I lost my fiancĂ©, Dana, thirty years ago. I’m an only child, and my wife Shelly has just one sibling, her older sister Dina.  After painfully struggling for a … Continue reading Have A Blessed Day

What 30 Years Means to Me

30 years. For me, milestone anniversaries always add an additional layer of reflection and perspective. I think back to those significant, fun-filled days leading up to November 13, 1990. We didn’t have a care in the world. The future was ours with an unlimited amount of potential and happiness ahead. We often talked about how … Continue reading What 30 Years Means to Me

Revisiting the Upstairs Room

Continuing to inch closer to completing my book, this morning I was working on a particular point in time that was a crucial point in my journey. My visit to Dana's room after 24 years pulled so much together in giving me the grace for some much needed peace. The writing of this visit was … Continue reading Revisiting the Upstairs Room

Never Married but Still a Widower: Finding Gratitude Years after my Girlfriend’s Death.

In December "Elephant Journal" asked me to update "My Story" by diving deeper into some of the lessons that I have learned. They published my updated version (here); which I am also posting below. Thank you for reading 🙂 "Time heals all wounds" is a phrase that we all hear often. Living with a significant loss … Continue reading Never Married but Still a Widower: Finding Gratitude Years after my Girlfriend’s Death.

Resilience and Perspective Revisited

For well over a year I have been working on a book that chronicles my resilient journey through adversity. I am more than 75% done with the first draft. I'm working hard to find the proper time to meet my goal of having the first draft done and to my publisher early in the new … Continue reading Resilience and Perspective Revisited

Nick Cave’s New Album is a Jaw-dropping Listen for those of us who have a Close Relationship with Grief

It’s no secret that music means a lot to me. It’s therapeutic in a way that I can’t even begin to accurately describe. Sometimes it enables me to remember. Other times it allows me to forget. The deep, dark, introspective stuff has a way of speaking directly to me. Nick Cave has been a favorite … Continue reading Nick Cave’s New Album is a Jaw-dropping Listen for those of us who have a Close Relationship with Grief